漂亮男孩2018

首先，甜茶的颜粉了有福了。

这里有恬静茶，哀伤茶，疯狂茶，绝望茶。

继「炎夏之夜」后，甜茶再次出演瘾君子。表演很不错，层次很丰富，而且情绪控制得很好，男主爹的表演和甜茶也配合得完美，从心疼的不断付出到心疼地绝望放弃。

但我其实有个疑问：上瘾的动机是什么？影片其实没有交待清楚。当然可能会有人指出是因为家庭破裂重组的关系，但是甜茶在里面可是吸尽了能吸到的各种毒品，我觉得只有经历了巨大的波折才会有如此行为吧？何况从影片中倒叙里父子互动场景能看出父亲对茶无微不至地关怀。我认为有可能是为保护真实人物的隐私而没有着重交待上瘾动机，或者电影的重点在于“走出”，因此草草掠过原因。

这是一部具有戒赌社会教育意义的片子，凑巧邻居枫叶国刚宣布大麻合法交易，可以说很反讽了。茶对毒品上瘾，想要致幻，实则想要逃避，他可能也一直能感受到自己在父亲心中是pretty boy，但是他在现有生活里，或者说空间里感到压抑，在毒品里他可以完全麻痹自己，恍如跨越到另一世界里，那个世界或许有最初完整的没有争吵的原始家庭。毒可以比作是甜茶划破现有生活的一个刀片，最后把自己伤害到遍体鳞伤，无人能救。茶心里觉得自己很丑陋，很恶心，他说谎，吸毒，浪费人生。但在父母眼里，他就是那个pretty boy，所以父亲和后妈一直在竭尽全力地帮助他，从无放弃之心，但他们最终渐渐发现，他们在这件事上毫无用处，能够get him back的人只能是茶自己。有一个场景我记得很清楚，甜茶带着女友仓皇从家里开车逃走，后妈马上去追，追到一半停下来了，大哭。我能感受到一种竭尽全力后的无力感。还有茶的亲妈给他爸打电话是说自己无论如何都不能放弃茶，但需要他的帮助，这通电话里，再也不是互相责备，而更像是忏悔，忏悔茶的上瘾原因在于他们关系的破裂，那个漂亮男孩再也回不来了。

影片彩蛋是茶的独白，他用平和的语气剖析了自己。

最后，他还是回来了。

再次成为了拥挤人群中一个能感知微小幸福的人。

So pretty.

Either peace or happiness,

let it enfold you

when I was a young man

I felt these things were

dumb, unsophisticated.

I had bad blood, a twisted

mind, a precarious

upbringing.

I was hard as granite, I

leered at the

sun.

I trusted no man and

especially no

woman.

I was living a hell in

small rooms, I broke

things, smashed things,

walked through glass,

cursed.

I challenged everything,

was continually being

evicted, jailed, in and

out of fights, in and out

of my mind.

women were something

to screw and rail

at, I had no male

friends,

I changed jobs and

cities, I hated holidays,

babies, history,

newspapers, museums,

grandmothers,

marriage, movies,

spiders, garbagemen,

english accents,spain,

france,italy,walnuts and

the color

orange.

algebra angred me,

opera sickened me,

charlie chaplin was a

fake

and flowers were for

pansies.

peace and happiness to me

were signs of

inferiority,

tenants of the weak

and

addled

mind.

but as I went on with

my alley fights,

my suicidal years,

my passage through

any number of

women-it gradually

began to occur to

me

that I wasn't different

from the

others, I was the same,

they were all fulsome

with hatred,

glossed over with petty

grievances,

the men I fought in

alleys had hearts of stone.

everybody was nudging,

inching, cheating for

some insignificant

advantage,

the lie was the

weapon and the

plot was

empty,

darkness was the

dictator.

cautiously, I allowed

myself to feel good

at times.

I found moments of

peace in cheap

rooms

just staring at the

knobs of some

dresser

or listening to the

rain in the

dark.

the less I needed

the better I

felt.

maybe the other life had worn me

down.

I no longer found

glamour

in topping somebody

in conversation.

or in mounting the

body of some poor

drunken female

whose life had

slipped away into

sorrow.

I could never accept

life as it was,

i could never gobble

down all its

poisons

but there were parts,

tenuous magic parts

open for the

asking.

I re formulated

I don't know when,

date, time, all

that

but the change

occurred.

something in me

relaxed, smoothed

out.

i no longer had to

prove that I was a

man,

I didn't have to prove

anything.

I began to see things:

coffee cups lined up

behind a counter in a

cafe.

or a dog walking along

a sidewalk.

or the way the mouse

on my dresser top

stopped there

with its body,

its ears,

its nose,

it was fixed,

a bit of life

caught within itself

and its eyes looked

at me

and they were

beautiful.

then- it was

gone.

I began to feel good,

I began to feel good

in the worst situations

and there were plenty

of those.

like say, the boss

behind his desk,

he is going to have

to fire me.

I've missed too many

days.

he is dressed in a

suit, necktie, glasses,

he says, 'I am going

to have to let you go'

'it's all right' I tell

him.

He must do what he

must do, he has a

wife, a house, children,

expenses, most probably

a girlfriend.

I am sorry for him

he is caught.

I walk onto the blazing

sunshine.

the whole day is

mine

temporarily,

anyhow.

(the whole world is at the

throat of the world,

everybody feels angry,

short-changed, cheated,

everybody is despondent,

disillusioned)

I welcomed shots of

peace, tattered shards of

happiness.

I embraced that stuff

like the hottest number,

like high heels, breasts,

singing,the

works.

(don't get me wrong,

there is such a thing as cockeyed optimism

that overlooks all

basic problems just for

the sake of

itself-

this is a shield and a

sickness.)

The knife got near my

throat again,

I almost turned on the

gas

again

but when the good

moments arrived

again

I didn't fight them off

like an alley

adversary.

I let them take me,

I luxuriated in them,

I made them welcome

home.

I even looked into

the mirror

once having thought

myself to be

ugly,

I now liked what

I saw, almost

handsome, yes,

a bit ripped and

ragged,

scares, lumps,

odd turns,

but all in all,

not too bad,

almost handsome,

better at least than

some of those movie

star faces

like the cheeks of

a baby's

butt.

and finally I discovered

real feelings of

others,

unheralded,

like lately,

like this morning,

as I was leaving,

for the track,

i saw my wife in bed,

just the

shape of

her head there

(not forgetting

centuries of the living

and the dead and

the dying,

the pyramids,

Mozart dead

but his music still

there in the

room, weeds growing,

the earth turning,

the tote board waiting for

me)

I saw the shape of my

wife's head,

she so still,

I ached for her life,

just being there

under the

covers.

I kissed her in the

forehead,

got down the stairway,

got outside,

got into my marvelous

car,

fixed the seatbelt,

backed out the

drive.

feeling warm to

the fingertips,

down to my

foot on the gas

pedal,

I entered the world

once

more,

drove down the

hill

past the houses

full and empty

of

people,

I saw the mailman,

honked,

he waved

back

at me.

影片并未从尼克的视角展开，以至于人们会觉得恨铁不成钢。尼克拥有一个如此深爱他的父亲，即便父母离婚但给他的爱却从未减少。并且尼克聪明又漂亮，家庭虽算不上幸福但也并不悲惨。无论如何也不至于沦落至此吧？！

是的，和那些无家可归，食不果腹的人们比起来，尼克简直算得上幸福。但成长创伤并非无病呻吟！不是只有生理上遭受的折磨和痛苦才算是伤害，心理上遭受的不安，恐惧和挣扎对一个孩子来说也同样是毁灭性的。也正是这些对于一个孩子来说无法自我消化的伤害和痛苦使尼克不幸的同时患上了抑郁症和躁郁症。大多数人的生活都只是平凡又普通的，即便是遭受的痛苦也是，不是所有的苦难都来的那么极端和戏剧化，但它们的破坏力却丝毫不差。即便没有尼克的视角，我也深刻体会到他受到伤害的每一刻。

如果你依然觉得尼克不不至于此，过于矫情，那你不妨试着想一下：那个曾经完全只属于你的父亲突然有了新的家庭，你多希望可以融入他们，你也做好了去爱他们的准备。但你发现你就是融入不了，不是你的错，也不是他们的错，但，你就是自然而然的被排除在外了。那个曾经只属于你的父亲，有了一个与你无关的爱人，以及两个与你无关的孩子。曾经完整的父爱被分割，被削弱。那些曾经理所当然完全属于你的爱如今却使你感觉到自己像在乞讨。你知道这不是父亲的错，不是继母的错，更不是无辜弟弟妹妹们的错。你的母亲爱你，你的父亲也爱你，但他们不再相爱，所以父母分开也没有错。你没有理由怪罪任何人，于是你的痛苦无从消解，无从发泄。无尽的孤独感和消失的归属感将你抛在了无边的海浪里，你的安感消失的无影无踪。父母的爱在这无尽的大海里随着海浪的起伏在完全相反的方向发出声响。你确信他们都在，你挣扎着追寻着母亲的声音游去，但你越靠近母亲，对于父亲的思念就越是难以抑制，于是你又转身追寻父亲的声音游去。当你越是靠近父亲，母亲失落孤单的影像在你脑海里出现。你感到内疚，懊悔，自责….最终，你筋疲力尽，痛苦又迷茫。

父母离婚再婚，如同犯错的人纠正了自己的错误，而你发现，你的存在却是他们曾经犯错的直接证明。他们都在忙着纠正自己的错误，维护目前的正轨，他们的确都爱你，但他们的相互指责同时也撕裂了你的爱。和母亲在一起时，你必须表现出对母亲更多的爱以表忠心，与父亲在一起时亦然。你爱任何一方的时候都像是对另一方的背叛。这些所有的一切都令你陷入痛苦的无尽深渊，谁都没有错，但却只有你承受着无尽的孤独和折磨。并且，你无法寻求帮助，你甚至没有意识到自己需要帮助。父母依然爱你，从未改变，你只觉得是自己的问题。你的痛苦，不安，敏感，焦虑以及被剥离被孤立的感觉在你身体里四面八方的剧烈拉扯着，直到撕裂……

甜茶主演的电影，没看简介来看以为是很平常的故事线进行。没想到是讲一个孩子吸毒反复挣扎无法逃离的故事，画面+音乐很是渲染人物心境和故事起伏这样。吸毒环境的压抑+看到父亲为了了解儿子吸毒而去尝试吸毒来感受毒品瞬间炸裂的愉快享受，不同时期画面的来回组接，有一种吸毒的现实与幻灭的切换，颠倒一般人的生活线。没有毒品短暂家人相聚的日子，以及吸毒逃离又联络父母的挣扎恐惧。家庭起初主要拍了主角尼克和父亲重组家庭继母和弟弟妹妹画面，因母亲住在美国另一座城市，后期母亲和父亲出现在一起陪伴尼克，看完是压抑的，父亲在起初就问他为什么要吸毒，尼克回答不出来。小时候尼克画面时不时切出，还很小到父母膝盖的孩子，假期坐飞机去妈妈家看着就很心疼的宝贝，眼里充噬着不安，可能从小伴随的不安与恐惧是长存的吧。以至于与亲情父母的交流接口也在无形中迷了方向，不知为何，答不上来。结尾先是字幕讲述美国毒品现状，和说要把它当作疾病来正视，并以一点数据来展现吸毒带给美国人民的巨大伤害。 在结尾字幕快出完，有一段独白，是尼克在学校里读过的一个诗人的一段话，写实而又并非可以用通俗字面理解，却通过尼克角色声音再一次把那段诗读完又有了许多赋予意义在里面。对了父亲是作家的身份，儿子尼克之前也在跟随兴趣写作（不得不说这是否是有遗传在里面呢），这部电影是根据书改编的，电影里父亲的名字是和书作者的名字一样，最后才意识到这可能是作者的自述与表达，面对儿子自己与毒品所经历的一切。（百度搜了下，是作者的回忆录改编～）

（片中和片尾念到的Charles Bukowski诗作，觉得非常美。找出来分享。）

Either peace or happiness, let it enfold you

when I was a young man I felt these things were dumb, unsophisticated. I had bad blood, a twisted mind, a precarious upbringing.

I was hard as granite, I leered at the sun. I trusted no man and especially no woman.

I was living a hell in small rooms, I broke things, smashed things, walked through glass, cursed. I challenged everything, was continually being evicted, jailed, in and out of fights, in and out of my mind. women were something to screw and rail at, I had no male friends,

I changed jobs and cities, I hated holidays, babies, history, newspapers, museums, grandmothers, marriage, movies, spiders, garbagemen, english accents,spain, france,italy,walnuts and the color orange. algebra angered me, opera sickened me, charlie chaplin was a fake and flowers were for pansies.

peace and happiness to me were signs of inferiority, tenants of the weak and addled mind.

but as I went on with my alley fights, my suicidal years, my passage through any number of women-it gradually began to occur to me that I wasn't different

from the others, I was the same,

they were all fulsome with hatred, glossed over with petty grievances, the men I fought in alleys had hearts of stone. everybody was nudging, inching, cheating for some insignificant advantage, the lie was the weapon and the plot was empty, darkness was the dictator.

cautiously, I allowed myself to feel good at times. I found moments of peace in cheap rooms just staring at the knobs of some dresser or listening to the rain in the dark. the less I needed the better I felt.

maybe the other life had worn me down. I no longer found glamour in topping somebody in conversation. or in mounting the body of some poor drunken female whose life had slipped away into sorrow.

I could never accept life as it was, i could never gobble down all its poisons but there were parts, tenuous magic parts open for the asking.

I re formulated I don't know when, date, time, all that but the change occurred. something in me relaxed, smoothed out. i no longer had to prove that I was a man,

I didn't have to prove anything.

I began to see things: coffee cups lined up behind a counter in a cafe. or a dog walking along a sidewalk. or the way the mouse on my dresser top stopped there with its body, its ears, its nose, it was fixed, a bit of life caught within itself and its eyes looked at me and they were beautiful. then- it was gone.

I began to feel good, I began to feel good in the worst situations and there were plenty of those. like say, the boss behind his desk, he is going to have to fire me.

I've missed too many days. he is dressed in a suit, necktie, glasses, he says, 'I am going to have to let you go'

'it's all right' I tell him.

He must do what he must do, he has a wife, a house, children, expenses, most probably a girlfriend.

I am sorry for him he is caught.

I walk onto the blazing sunshine. the whole day is mine temporarily, anyhow.

(the whole world is at the throat of the world, everybody feels angry, short-changed, cheated, everybody is despondent, disillusioned)

I welcomed shots of peace, tattered shards of happiness.

I embraced that stuff like the hottest number, like high heels, breasts, singing,the works.

(don't get me wrong, there is such a thing as cockeyed optimism that overlooks all basic problems just for the sake of itself- this is a shield and a sickness.)

The knife got near my throat again, I almost turned on the gas again but when the good moments arrived again I didn't fight them off like an alley adversary. I let them take me, I luxuriated in them, I made them welcome home. I even looked into the mirror once having thought myself to be ugly, I now liked what I saw, almost handsome, yes, a bit ripped and ragged, scares, lumps, odd turns, but all in all, not too bad, almost handsome, better at least than some of those movie star faces like the cheeks of a baby's butt.

and finally I discovered real feelings of others, unheralded, like lately, like this morning, as I was leaving, for the track, i saw my wife in bed, just the shape of her head there (not forgetting centuries of the living and the dead and the dying, the pyramids, Mozart dead but his music still there in the room, weeds growing, the earth turning, the tote board waiting for me) I saw the shape of my wife's head, she so still, I ached for her life, just being there under the covers.

I kissed her in the forehead, got down the stairway, got outside, got into my marvelous car, fixed the seatbelt, backed out the drive. feeling warm to the fingertips, down to my foot on the gas pedal, I entered the world once more, drove down the hill past the houses full and empty of people, I saw the mailman, honked, he waved back at me.

色调很美的片子，艺术性大于故事性。不知道导演本意还想拍出什么更深的立意，但在我看来这部片子的核心立意就是毒品对家庭的危害以及为孩子操碎心的父爱。 甜茶演的Nic这个人设是个漂亮但性格有点绿茶的失足男孩，最后Laura被救护车拉走后Nic哭着给爸爸打电话请求他让他回家的那点把“装可怜”三个字演绎得很好很好，虽然他吸毒并总爱干一些作死的事，但完全让人恨不起来。电影有个镜头后劲很大，就是Nic少年时期爸爸唱“beautiful boy”的歌哄他睡觉的那一段，看的时候内心平静，看完之后回想起来，真的很想让我掉眼泪，我想不管是Nic还是爸爸，都宁愿时间永远停留在那一刻，一个希望自己永远不会长大，令一个希望自己永远不会老去。“如果仅仅到这里就是结局该有多好，如果后面那些事情都不要发生就好了。” 在这部片里完全get到了甜茶的美，我首先就很喜欢很喜欢他的气质，他能完全不矫揉造作地把“娇”的感觉表现出来，嘴上不说，一举一动里却都透露着“虽然我总是让父母为我操心，但这不能完全算我的错，我也很可怜，我也很脆弱，我想借你的肩膀哭一会，我想要你抱抱我”的感觉。但他的“漂亮”同时也是这部片子的嘈点，导演没有把握好文艺片和现实片之间的度，导致我看起来感觉有些美化吸毒者。瘾君子犯毒瘾是非常可怕的，这点小李子的《边缘日记》珠玉在前，主角犯毒瘾时歇斯底里，六亲不认，攻击性强，折磨家人折磨自己，像怪物一样的形象才正常。但甜茶把犯毒瘾时候的Nic完全演成了一个病弱美少年，只有“美”而不见“毒瘾”了，因此我看外网有人评论说“这个片子应该所有中小学强制播放，向他们宣传毒品的危害”的时候，我是不以为然的，当个甜茶颜值安利片还差不多，戒毒宣传片还是差了点。如果抛开以上都不谈，甜茶真的是可以用“美”来形容的男孩子，大眼长发冷白皮，身材比例优越，又瘦又高，真的会爱死帅哥。（而且在这部片子里他穿的衣服都好好看，把他原本就好的气质衬得更好了，四年前的他还不是如今这个穿个孙答应的赤色鸳鸯肚兜就上红毯结果被群嘲的笑料，好莱坞的风水不养人呜呜呜） 更新一下 看了一些豆瓣影评，把我内心隐隐感受出来但没能用语言很好的表达出来的内容说了出来，这部片子还有更深的立意。我们带着一身棱角来到这个世界上，高傲地看不起一切，将安宁与和平视为软弱者的精神寄托，但在日子的洪流中，我们彼此推搡着，慢慢发现曾经总以为与众不同的自己也和他们没有什么区别。某种程度上来说，我们都在为不同的东西而“上瘾”，逃避着一切我们不愿意面对的现实。可惜导演没有把这个立意拍深，不然就该八分往上了绝对不会只有6.2分。

再更新下

看完七百多条的高赞影评后我突然狠狠地共情起了Nic，我也有个看起来很美好的家庭，外人都羡慕，我父母也很爱很爱我。可惜，关系网是由个体组成，个体的问题对关系网的影响牵一发而动全身，在这个世界上，没有人是完美的，每个人都是普通人，在我看似美好的家庭中，也已经积攒了许多问题，这些问题让我在很多个深夜辗转反侧时都忍不住偷偷落泪，爱与恨的关系就如同善与恶，随意强行剥夺哪一方，另一方也会自然消失。我常常在这种环境下也告诫自己“我已经比很多人都幸福了，我不该这样矫情”，但结果只会让我越来越痛苦，越来越崩溃窒息，这简直是环境pua我后我又自我pua的后果。 虽然我不至于像Nic那样因为成长中受到的伤害去吸毒，但被伤害的人表现出的情绪是多种多样的，索性我意识到了“我在这之中受到了伤害，我应该去面对而不是逃避”这一点，我愿意努力疗愈自己。

最后感谢甜茶把Nic这个角色演绎得活灵活现，感谢原著作者愿意揭开伤口把他的故事呈现给我们，希望类似的悲剧不要再发生